Spice up Your Relationship this Valentine's Day

Get Your Relationship Out of Cruise Control, Before its Too Late!
By Maria Lamkin
You know we all let it happen, we take perfectly good marriages and put them in cruise control expecting that everything will remain hunky dory. Truth be told, this may be fine for the short-term "but clearly not for the long haul.
Because its Valentines Day, Iam going to share with you some of the best advice on relationships that I have recently found. Yes, its enough to make even me blush while writing this, but I can handle it and so can you!
Sex Drive Okay, you have just come home from work "or you have just finished cleaning your two-year-old spaghetti off the floor "and your husband starts in with the hints. Remember the book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus? Well, this is even more evident when it comes to our sexual needs. That being so, it can be a real struggle for women to want to have sex and get in the mood on a regular basis "especially when given the choice between sex and watching American Idol. But its okay, you are not alone!
Certified sex therapist Debra Taylor has some answers, and tips, to rev things back up. She says, “Most women do not think about sex frequently. Many men are shocked, appalled and disappointed to find out that women think about sex once a week. For a man who thinks about sex once a minute or several times an hour, that is just unbelievable to him
Yes, it may be unbelievable to him, but that is the reality "right girls! So, here what Taylor says we need to do to get sex back on the front burner, the way you begin is by setting aside time "it doesn't have to be a lot of time, but setting aside time every day or several times a week just to think happy thoughts about sex.She says that thinking happy thoughts about sex will get you closer to being able to enjoy it and use sex for really positive things in your marriage.
What She Wants Now, what if the problem is that you just don’t know how to tell your husband what you like and don't like "in the privacy of your bedroom? This is another common issue that women face. If not approached carefully, some men can take great offense at their wives critiquing their love making skills.
But if you don't take action, your marriage will likely suffer. Experts say that sexual intimacy is a critical factor for a successful marriage. This means to have a great sex life, you need to learn to share your desires thereby creating a satisfying sex life, not only for your husband "but also for you.
Licensed psychologist and sex therapist Douglas Rosenau has some advice for approaching this touchy subject. I think there are ways you can do this coaching, and often I say to women that men are ego driven, so if you can throw in some affirmation it really, really helps.” In fact, he tells women to sandwich their coaching with affirmation. He says to try something like, “Wow, what a stud. I mean you are a great lover.are Followed by, are you know, a little softer, and a little lower would help. After which, Rosenau says to make sure to follow up with more affirmation.
Men are pretty easy, says Rosenau, if the coaching is done with sensitivity and praise. However, don't forget to save the major coaching for when you are fully clothed and in a place you can talk, such as a busy restaurant or across the kitchen table, but definitely not during lovemaking.
We work at our jobs, we work at being great parents, but how hard do we really work at our relationships? Therefore, this Valentines Day, take the wise advice of these experts and put it to work. You never know, you may just throw your love life into overdrive.
To see more ways to spice up your love life, check out The Top 10 Ways to Reenergize Your Relationships featuring over a dozen experts in the field of sexual intimacy and relationships.